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Do Autistic People Have Sex? – The Truth About Autism & Sex

A number of adults with autism have problems understanding and satisfying their sexual needs. They may have trouble figuring out appropriate sexual expression, and connecting with another person in a relationship can be difficult. However, since autism is a spectrum disorder with various levels of impairment ranging from mild to severe, the potential sexual expression problems vary greatly.

A high functioning person with an autism spectrum disorder may be able to sustain a romantic relationship with a healthy sex life with no issues. Yet, a person with moderate to severe autism may not be able to interact with another person sexually, or sustain a romantic relationship. Another person with autism might engage in sexual behavior as a sensory response without understanding its social context. Additionally, a person with autism may show little interest in sexuality.

Where To Meet Potential Partners

To attract someones takes exposure. Where ever you are, to get a person to like you and to spend time with you will take time and work getting to know one another. That is why most places where people meet are where men and women frequent automatically because they don’t have a choice. Women have no choice about going to work. The work place is the number one area where people meet often. Everyone has to work. Even the most beautiful women have to make a living somehow. They go to work and they have to talk to the people that are there. At work you will encounter women as you carry on with the tasks of the day. This section is more focused on men as they still tend to be in the initators, or are expected to be, in starting relationships. This brings us to the number one spot to meet women:

Sexual Relationships And Sexual Health For Autistic Teenagers

As your autistic child goes through puberty and learns about sexual feelings, youll need to talk with them about sexual relationships.

Its important for your child to know that sexual relationships are a normal part of life, but your child doesnt have to have sexual relationships if they dont want to. They dont have to have sex to be popular or because their peers say they should.

Your child also needs to learn about sexual cues from other people. When your child knows how to interpret other peoples sexual cues, it can build your childs confidence, keep your child safe, and prevent your child from unintentionally harming others.

Explaining sexual cues can help. For example, Someone might be interested in having sex if theyve been kissing or touching you and then invite you into their bedroom. If you want to have sex with them, you must ask them if they want to have sex. You must not do anything the other person doesnt want to do.

And if your child is sexually active, these essential steps can protect your childs sexual health:

You and your child can get advice about sexuality and sexual health from several places, including the GP. You can also tell your child that they can ask you anything. But if you think your child would be more comfortable talking to someone else, a sibling, friend or other family member could also be an option.

Women With Asd Experience The Ni More Strongly Than Men With Asd

The analysis revealed that the NI was perceived differently by men and women with ASD . Indeed, the NI was perceived more clearly by women with ASD compared to men with ASD . Furthermore, women with ASD reported a greater disruption of fingers ownership when the stroking was asynchronous than men with ASD both in the asynchronous and the synchronous conditions . No main effect of Synchrony emerged .

Figure 2. Strength of the NI for women and men of ASD group. Error bars indicate the standard error of the mean . = p< 0.05; The horizontal line with intercept 3 refers to the level at which the illusion was experienced by participants.

Deal With Autism And Sexuality Early

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Just as early intervention is effective in treating autism, early training in sexuality can be beneficial. You can begin by teaching social skills that relate to issues like personal space and appropriate touching. It is important to teach autistic children about personal safety to protect them from becoming victims of sexual abuse. Teenagers and adults with autism need to learn about the social aspects of sexuality to prevent inappropriate sexual behavior and to encourage healthy attitudes toward sex.

Autism Sexuality And Relationships Part 3

Topics covered include: Issues at puberty; Sexual development; Inappropriate attachments; Social etiquette; Sexual offences act what support can family and practitioners offer; Sexual orientation; Masturbation; Fetishism; Tangled webs- delayed emotional development and individuation; Increased risk of victimisation; Sensory issues.

People With Autism Are Passionate

Many people on the spectrum are truly passionate about the things, ideas, and people in their lives. They spend the time, energy, and imagination necessary to truly master their area of interest, and they stick with it even when it’s difficult, frustrating, or “uncool.” How many “typical” people can say the same?

Protecting Autistic Teenagers From Sexual Abuse: Good Touch And Bad Touch

Autistic people can be vulnerable to sexual abuse because they dont always recognise when something isnt right. So you might need to explicitly teach your child the difference between good touch and bad touch.

For example, good touch is something that friends and family might do to show they care for each other. These touches might include a handshake to say hello, a hug or a kiss. A bad touch is something that feels wrong or uncomfortable, like a stranger asking for a kiss.

You might also need to explain that a touch might be a good touch for one person, but the same touch might be a bad touch for someone else. For example, one person might like to be tickled , whereas someone else might not enjoy being tickled . Or its OK to kiss a close friend or family member hello if you see them in the street, but its not OK to kiss a stranger hello.

Visual supports showing appropriate and inappropriate touching can help. Social stories might also be useful. Heres an example of a social story.

A social story about bad touchBad touch is something that makes me feel confused and uncomfortable.

Here are some examples of bad touch.

Someone touches me in my private areas when I dont want them to.

Someone hits me.

Sex Educationadvice & Support For:

7 Things YOU Are Too Afraid To Ask AUTISTIC People

Here we offer advice and guidance for autistic adults and parents on talking about sex and sexuality, navigating intimate relationships, staying safe, and more…

For some autistic adults, navigating sex, sexuality and relationships may be confusing or overwhelming. As an autistic person, there may be certain aspects of social interaction you find difficult. This can make things like intimate relationships more complicated. 

For parents and carers, it can be difficult to know how to talk to your autistic child about sex and sexuality. 

To help you with this, weve put together some advice and resources on sex, sexuality and relationships.

This page gives you an overview. For more information, select from the menu above or the guide link below.


They Are Not Tied To Social Expectations

If you’ve ever bought a car, played a game, or joined a club to fit in, you know how hard it can be to be true to yourself. But for people with autism, social expectations can be honestly unimportant.

Who cares if someone you’ve never met rolls their eyes when you mention your interest in Disney movies even when you’re a grown-up? What matters is true liking, shared interests, kindness, and the desire to spend time togethernot keeping up with or being as similar as possible to the Joneses.

A Note Regarding Language

The language best used to describe autism is currently the subject of intense and passionate debate . While there is no single consensus either across or within stakeholders as to whether identity-first language or person-first language should be used, available research indicates that the term most strongly endorsed by autistic people and advocates themselves is IFL reflecting a conceptualisation of autism as an intrinsic, all-encompassing part of a persons identity . In recognition of this, and amidst suggestions that PFL may increase stigma , many authors across disciplines predominantly or exclusively use IFL , and specialist autism journals increasingly state in their author guidelines that IFL can or indeed should be used . Importantly, we further noted a preference for IFL when referring to themselves by many of those cited in the research drawn upon for this article.

We are aware of this journals preference for PFL, which is issue from early disability rights activism and is often preferred by professionals working in the field . Seeking to conform to the journals preference while also respecting differing perspectives and also, crucially we feel, the choice of the people we are citing, we use both IFL and PFL throughout the article. We hope that this compromise, while not perfect, will be acceptable to readers.

They Are Less Materialistic

Of course, this is not universally truebut in general, people with autism are far less concerned with prestige and status than their neurotypical peers.

As a result, they worry less about brand names, high-end restaurants, and other expensive but unimportant externals than most people do. They are also less inclined to see salary or title as desirable for their own sake.

Dealing With Puberty And Sex Education


When a children reach puberty and adolescence, they may start to express themselves sexually. Puberty and adolescence are particularly challenging because many changes in the body occur, and they can be difficult for a child on the spectrum to understand. Appropriate sexual behaviors and social rules for courtship can be confusing for some people on the spectrum. Difficulty with impulse control mixed with a lack of social understanding can lead to inappropriate sexual behaviors.

Stories about appropriate sexual behavior and courtship can help teach adolescents about sex education. Applied behavioral analysis techniques can help deal with inappropriate sexual behavior, such as masturbating in public. Specific approaches that deal with inappropriate sexual behaviors should be part of the teenager’s treatment plan.

Ask your child’s therapist if there are any sex education programs for autistic children in your area. If not, the therapist can still help you talk to your child about these issues. It is important for an adolescent with autism to learn about the social aspects of sexuality as well as practical sexual safety.

Carry On The Conversation:

What are some autism misconceptions which you would like to clarify? Let me know in the comments below. And, if you want to learn the truth behind autistic meltdowns, check out this article: Exploring Autism: What is an Autistic Meltdown?

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Thank you for reading and I will see you next week for more thoughts from across the spectrum.

Look For Teachable Moments And Use Appropriate Language

Look for teachable moments rather than sitting down and having the sex talk. Use correct terminology and forgo the cute words like willy and wee-wee. The initial reaction you have to questions and statements from the individual is critical in creating an open dialogue. Try to remain non-judgemental. Communicate with the team around the person with ASD, letting them know family values, religious beliefs, and rules. There is a misconception that talking about sexual feelings will create them; this is untrue. Sexuality is a normal part of being human, disabled or not.

Yes Its Uncomfortable But This Is Just Another Skill Set You Need To Help Your Child Master

Sexuality and masturbation are taboo subjects in our society, but like many social skills they need to be taught to our kids on the spectrum explicitly. Try not to be embarrassed about having to deal with these subjects in a more head-on way then you might be comfortable with. Like toileting, sexuality is a very important skill to master in order for a child with ASD to find future independence and be included in the world around them.

What Behaviors Become Appropriate Once A Chatup Starts

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Smiling and good eye contact. These are also flirtatious behaviors but can appear creepy if not returned.

Focusing only on the partners face, the things they say and the things they pay attention to.

Touching is possibly best left to the woman to initiate and this doesn’t mean that the man should start touching too, nor indeed that it is wrong for a man to do so.

Asking more personal questions that may otherwise appear creepy such as where someone is going or where someone is from.

Subtlety in flirting is more complex but necessary. Being subtle hides the proceedings from public scrutiny. This is showing respect for your partner and it is important in knockbacks too.

Sexuality On The Autism Spectrum

Autistic adults have, in general, differences in sexuality from the norm. Many more are asexual than in the average population. It is believed that there is a slightly higher pecentage of gays, lesbians, bisexual, and transgendered autistics than in the average population.

Bisexual or homosexual Aspies may find more potential for sex and/or relationships in the gay community where there is less emphasis on conformity. Girls and women who are autistic can have more chance at success in relationships, generally speaking, than men. This is due to differences in social requirements, where a man is often expected to ask a girl for a date, rather than vice versa.

Living in a society where long-time relationships and starting a family are the norm it can be very hard for socially inexperienced men with Asperger’s to find a partner and some stay away from dating for that reason.

Some of those on the autism spectrum are celibate by choice, feeling that they are asexual, or that there are more important things in life. Others have resigned themselves to celibacy due to the fact that romantic or sexual relationships can be much harder to find due to a misunderstanding of social skills and the difficulty of finding a suitable partner.

Some Regularly Recurring Themes In Sex/relationship Guides

Self-respect and self-confidence Respecting your partner and potential partners Connecting with your partner, or rapport, which is very important when meeting potential partners Communicating with with your partner, which involves negotiation Developing trust with your partner. How to fake the important things. This is not always necessary or a good idea.

Here are some things rarely mentioned in guides that are particularly relevant to autism spectrum people:

The courting process allows EITHER party to slow the pace of the process down or quit at any time, but communicating this can be difficult. Not communicating this properly can be destructive to the relationship.

There is NO special protocol for initiating and developing relationships that nobody told you about and that everyone uses in secret.

This doesn’t mean that there aren’t protocols, but that the protocols involve using the same rules and communication methods used in the non-autistic world to do many of the things mentioned above under “recurring themes”. Also, the protocols vary wildly depending on the partners and situations involved.

These communications are nearly always played out when both partners are in plot mode and playing the social status game as best as they possibly can. Some guides refer to this as “turning the brain off”, or “animal instinct”, if they refer to it at all.

Paraphilic Fantasies And Behaviors

Altogether, paraphilic sexual fantasies and behaviors were reported more frequently in male patients with ASD than in male HCs. After correcting for multiple testing, significant differences were still present in the number of individuals reporting masochistic fantasies, sadistic fantasies, voyeuristic fantasies and behaviors, frotteuristic fantasies and behaviors, and pedophilic fantasies with female children . Female patients with ASD showed no differences in the frequency of paraphilic fantasies or behaviors in comparison with their HC counterparts, except in the frequency of masochistic behaviors, where more female HCs indicated masochistic behaviors than the female ASD patients.

They Live In The Moment

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How often do typical people fail to notice what’s in front of their eyes because they’re distracted by social cues or random chitchat? People on the autism spectrum truly attend to the sensory input that surrounds them.

Some see the beauty that others miss, though they pass by it every day. Many have achieved the ideal of mindfulness, even if they don’t have the tools to communicate their state of mind to others.

Correcting Common Autism Myths 10 Facts About Autistic People

Hey everyone, NeuroRebel here, and there are a lot of things you should know about Autistic people, but  Ive narrowed it down for you. So stay tuned.

  • Each Autistic Person is Unique.
  • Autistic people often have sensory processing differences sometimes referred to as SPD.
  • There is NO CURE for Autism. Autism is a lifelong difference.  
  • Vaccines DONT Cause Autism.
  • Its not just little boys who are Autistic.
  • Autistic people are known for hyperfocus / not being able to let things go. 
  • Autistic People dont always communicate in the ways that neurotypical people do. 
  • We dont lack empathy some of us feel too much. 
  • Meltdowns suck WAY MORE for the person having them then for the person watching them. 
  • Transcript:

    Hey everyone, NeuroRebel here, and there are a lot of things you should know about Autistic people, but  Ive narrowed it down for you. So stay tuned.

    The first thing that I would like for you to know about Autism and Autistic people is that each and every single Autistic person is different. We all have our own strengths and our own weaknesses and opinions, and even  different ways of processing information, motor skills, and even different and unique sensory processing differences and sensory profiles.

    This brings me to fact number two. Sensory processing differences SPD sometimes referred to as sensory processing disorder.

    Third fact, calling Autistic people high or low functioning, isnt helpful at all.  There are a few reasons for this.

    Number eight.

    Solitary And Dyadic Sexual Behaviors


    As shown in Table III, no differences were found between the female participants in the frequency of masturbation . However, female HCs indicated more frequent sexual intercourse than the female ASD patients . The same pattern was found with regard to the question how often do you desire to have sexual intercourse, indicating that HC women had a greater desire for sexual intercourse than their ASD counterparts .


    With regard to the masturbation frequency in men, male ASD participants reported more frequent masturbation than male HCs . In comparison of the frequency of sexual intercourse, an opposite pattern was found, with HCs reporting a higher frequency of sexual intercourse than ASD individuals. ASD men reported a greater sexual desire for sexual intercourse than their HC counterparts .

    Do Autistic People Have Sex The Truth About Autism & Sex

    Hey everyone, NeuroRebel here. And this week, we are going to talk about Autistic people and sex. So if youre interested and want to know more, please stay tuned.

    So Autistic people can and do have sex. Okay. Thats it. End The video. Well talk to you next time.

    Just kidding. Im not going to let myself off that easily, but there is a misconception out there that Autistic people do not have sex or have urges or any of those things. That are common in a lot of other humans. Although some Autistic people may not experience sexual urges or have sex. A lot of us do because were just human.


    Hey everyone, NeuroRebel here. And this week, we are going to talk about Autistic people and sex. So if youre interested and want to know more, please stay tuned.

    So Autistic people can and do have sex. Okay. Thats it. End The video. Well talk to you next time.

    Just kidding. Im not going to let myself off that easily, but there is a misconception out there that Autistic people do not have sex or have urges or any of those things. That are common in a lot of other humans. Although some Autistic people may not experience sexual urges or have sex. A lot of us do because were just human.

    There is this myth that Autistic people just cant be sexual beings, but thats definitely not true with me or my partners.

    I asked on Twitter what other Autistic peoples experience with sexuality is, because Ive found that sex can be a very wonderful sensory experience.

    They Have Fewer Hidden Agendas

    Flight attendants, passengers show kindness to boy with autism having meltdown on plane

    Most of the time, if a person on the autism spectrum tells you what he wants he is telling you what he wants. No need to beat around the bush, second guess, and hope you’re reading between the lines.

    This may be due, in part, to the fact that many autistic people are unaware of or baffled by others’ choice to hide their real intentions.

    Ethics Approval And Consent To Participate

    Data collection by the researchers at Bournemouth University was ethically approved by Bournemouth Universitys ethics panel . The clinic we collaborated with, Dorset NHS Community Adult Asperger Service , had previously received NHS approval to collect RAADS-R data. In the course of data collection, participants were told that their data could be used in scientific papers and gave their consent to go forward. The researchers were granted access to raw scores of autistic people but no personal or identifying information, and consent was granted by the clinic for us to publish our findings.

    Characteristics Common To Asd Persons

    The overarching confounding factor for individuals with ASD to develop normative sexual identity, sexual orientation, and sexual behaviors is their core social disability that in turn influences the persons opportunity and availability for romantic and intimate relationships. While levels of romantic and sexual functioning typically increase with age, a developmental lag was reported for individuals with ASD . In a survey of parents of 38 neurotypically developing adolescents and young adults and 25 adolescents and young adults with ASD, Stokes and colleagues found support for their research hypotheses that individuals with ASD had less access to peers and friends, engaged in more unacceptable behaviors in attempting to initiate romantic relationships, and persisted in their pursuit of the relationship even when non-mutual interests were evident . In 2012, Shandra and Chowdhury conducted a study on the first sexual experiences of adolescent girls with and without disabilities and reported that social isolation was the primary contributor to difficulties, based on their review of the literature and analyses of a national longitudinal data bank. Results also suggested that having a mild disability increased the likelihood of having sexual intercourse with a stranger for the first time, rather than with a steady dating partner .

    Case example: RJ

    Sexuality And Asd : Additional Resources

    • Sexuality your sons and daughters with Intellectual Disabilities by Karin Schwier and Dave Hingsburger
    • Me and Us is a website dedicated to resources for teaching people with learning disabilities about sexuality with lots of onward links. It is no longer trading but a lot of information is still available through the website.

    DVDs/Videos are available which provide a more visual way of presenting sex ed information:

    How To Deal With Masturbation

    Autistic people see faces differently

    Lets talk about masturbation, one of the frequent concerns surrounding sexuality. Be specific about when and where masturbation can happen. If you say its OK in the bathroom, the person with autism may take that to mean any bathroom . Say which bathroom is fine and which ones are off limits. Same goes for bedrooms which ones, with the door closed, and shades drawn if the window faces the street. When can masturbation take place? What materials can be involved .

    Do some detective work on when masturbation is a problem. If its attempted at school or work, is it to avoid a task or seek attention? Recognize when it happens and see if it occurs within the context of another activity. Teach the rules around masturbation and reinforce behavior that you want instead of masturbation when it isnt appropriate. Consider clothing modifications like belting pants, no sweat pants, and check for medical problems if masturbation is occurring frequently.

    For young people that are sexually frustrated, provide assistance in the form of instructional how to videos, lubricants, or appropriate sex toys. Provide alternative sensory input such as deep pressure or a tactile activity like a stress ball. Use a how to visual task breakdown of masturbation with pic symbols showing the steps involved. An OT should be able to provide some ideas.

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